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“A quiet and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success bound with constant unrest”
Albert Einstein
In this book I wanted to write a simple but comprehensive explanation of how anxiety begins and how it can be managed if it becomes a problem. My goal was that it would be both helpful and enlightening for a large number of people who, as I knew from my professional experience, were struggling with their feelings. I knew that no anxious person would want to sit down and focus on a long and complicated textbook to help solve their problems. I explained in layman’s terms, how using the methods I recommended could help the reader resolve their feelings and examine their thoughts around their difficulties.
It is never too late to change.
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This Year Could Change Your Life
“I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn”
Anne Frank
Doing a little writing every day can result in a deeper understanding of why we are feeling certain emotions at different times in our life. This allows us to understand the gentle ebb and flow of life without fear; confirming that there will always be both good and bad times in our lives. If we look back and see that we have had one good day or evening over the past week, we may not be swamped with thoughts of a bleak future that is filled with anxious days and sleepless nights.
If you can look back on your life in this way, this year could change your life.
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A Month of Living Mindfully
“Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Do not be afraid.”
Frederick Buechner
Mindfulness means that we make a conscious effort to notice what is happening around us moment by moment. Human beings find it easy to switch off and not pay attention to the many external events that are happening in our lives. Instead we get caught up living inside our heads with just our memories or our future worries. We concentrate so much on our own inner thoughts that we fail to notice that these are the ones controlling our feelings and behaviours in the present, external world. Thinking about things in the future can cause tension and stress, thinking about what has happened in the past can result in pain, sadness, anger or jealousy.
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About The Author
I am a Counselling Psychologist living in Philadelphia, I moved from the UK in 2017 with my husband. I have a daughter and son-in-law in the UK, I also have a grandson who is growing up far too quickly for my liking.
I gave up my private counselling practice of twenty years to make time to write a book that had been in my head for years.
My book, The Anxious Therapist, is about my own struggles as a child to overcome anxiety, and the advice and counsel that I give in counselling sessions to my many clients. These clients came to me for all sorts of reasons, and what I noticed most was that for many is that their underlying feelings were of fear and anxiety.
These fears presented for many reasons: low self-esteem, loss, bereavement, work issues, relationships, etc; and came in all shapes and sizes. I gave my clients advice, understanding and counselling therapies; but what I hoped I did well was to listen and allow them to talk about their problems without judgement.
It is my wish that my book can throw light on the subject of anxiety for you: how it can start and how it is inadvertently maintained. I guide my readers to think about anxiety differently, to know that it can be brought under control, but that it also may take some time. Most importantly though, to learn that it's never too late to feel better.
Invitation
I invite you to write to me with any questions you may have concerning any chapter in this book, or if you need any help with any difficulties that you may be experiencing with anxiety. I will get back to you as soon as I can, and I will treat your query in confidence. You can contact me by email at anxiety@anxioustherapist.com In the future, I would like to publish some of the questions and answers. If you would be agreeable to this, please let me know in your email. None of the queries or replies will be published without your permission. I look forward to hearing from you.
A grandfather is talking to his grandson about how he is feeling after a tragedy has happened in his family.
The grandfather says, “I feel as though I have two wolves fighting in my heart.
One is fearful, angry and violent. The other is loving, kind and compassionate.
The grandson asks, “Which wolf will win the fight in your heart grandfather?”
The grandfather replies, “The one I feed”
So, don’t feed the fear. Relax. Be kind to yourself.
There is no quick fix for finding time or learning to relax, you really must want to do it. The easiest way is to find a download or cd that you can listen to which takes you through the relaxation exercises and you can just lie back and enjoy the experience.
The most time you will have to spend is twenty minutes a day relaxing to reap the benefits for your whole life. Relaxation is a behavioural response, so it must be learned. Try to do this regularly for at least a week to see if this is making you feel better, and if it is then you can use it every day or when you need it. It allows you time to sit and do nothing, which is good for everyone! So just relax… Stay calm and breathe
“All that has ever happened to you is recorded in your body, but more importantly, new possibilities are there too”
Herman Hesse, Siddhartha.
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Fear of Flying
“More than anything else the sensation of flying is one of perfect peace mingled with an excitement that strains every nerve to the utmost, if you can conceive of such a combination.”
Wilbur Wright
I think we can all agree that if you loath flying then it is not difficult to feel a sense of every nerve being strained to the utmost, but not with excitement. If we are feeling scared then our bodies react with fear, if we are feeling excitement then we react with elation. The feelings and sensations of fear and excitement are very similar and can be confused depending on our mood.
Just to get you started I have recorded on this download all the steps that you would need to take if you were going on a journey by an airplane. It’s amazing how many people hate flying and I do have the odd twinge every now and then myself, even though I have flown many times.
You must spend a lot of time (at least two months before – I know but it is worth it!) before your flight listening to a relaxation exercise and this download, to pair the anxiety with relaxation to lower your anxiety, this allows you to mentally go through your journey starting from check in to landing at your destination at the other end, in your head in a safe way. You must do these exercises every day.
You can do your own chosen breathing exercise at the end of the exercises and come up with a magic word that you can use if you start to feel panicky, the most common word that you can use is “calm”. Your journey is recorded here, in a very simple way, so it will be easy for you to imagine.
All that you have to do is to take that first step to overcoming your fear. Start now.
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